Tenderness
Submitted by Victoria Polmatier on Thu, 03/31/2016 - 08:49 “We have to consciously study how to be tender with each other until it becomes a habit.”
—Audre Lorde
“We have to consciously study how to be tender with each other until it becomes a habit.”
—Audre Lorde
Dear Mom,
Over the holidays you said something about discovering in your old age that you weren't a good mother. I wouldn't say that you were a bad mother, life was just complicated at times. Being a parent is about doing the very best we know how in the moment. I will say, no matter what was going on, I always knew that you loved me.
One of the things I remember most about my Grandmother was her quilts. She was infamous in our family for using remnants from sewing projects or tearing up old clothing to use for her quilting. Everyone in the family received at least one and some had several. My life is a lot like those quilts, pieced together of new and old. Our family had some dark secrets and the healing journey has led me through a sorting process where I left some pieces behind and kept others to become the quilt of my life today.
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