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By Victoria Polmatier | 10:06 AM PDT, Fri May 24, 2019
Image of a pagoda with a blooming peony flower in front

What happens when a life is filled with death
when the blanket of grief lays over our days
when the sun no longer shines
and the waters flow continuously

What happens when we surrender
sleep when sleep wants to come
quit trying to force it into a container
move when we want to move
stop the incessant need to produce

cease the endless struggle
slip slowly into slumber
sit silently in surrender
sing songs of celebration

in the silence we find comfort
in the surrender, we are held
in the opening
love finds us again

Photo note: Last summer, as we prepared to move my mother in with us, I gathered starts of her peony garden. This peony was one we bought her for Mother's Day one year and it took years to bloom in her garden. This year, in my garden, it is the one and only of those starts to bloom. A sweet hello from beyond.

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Welcome

I've been writing blogs on the internet since 2007. Like my life, my words have wandered from Wisdom or Life Lessons and Wellness, to Gardening and Aquaponics. After my son’s death by suicide in 2016, Poetry became a big piece of my world as I tried to make sense of the tragedy of his death.

In truth, his death took me into my own journey with darkness. I've shared a bit during the last ten years but nothing in comparison to what I've written. Only recently have I started to climb back into life and the desire to share my writing.

These days, my writing is varied and inspired by the moment. I participate in two writing group, one where we write to prompts from a book by Judy Reeves called A Writer’s Book of Days: A Spirited Companion and the other where we journey and then write about our experience or about the wisdom gained. Much of this writing is buried in journals in my office. As I move forward, Some of that will be found under Stories, Magic and the Mystical.

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Blessings, Victoria

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